Detransitioner’s plea for embracing gender roles.
Exploring the Depths of Femininity and Masculinity
As a young straight woman who once considered transitioning to live as a gay man, I’ve embarked on a personal journey to understand the true essence of womanhood. Through my studies in psychology and philosophy, I’ve delved into the teachings of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, which have shed light on the ancient dualities of human nature and the archetypes of masculinity and femininity.
Here are my key takeaways:
The Feminine
The Feminine represents Chaos, the mysterious and ever-changing energy that holds the potential for transformation. While we often view Chaos as negative, fearing the unknown and resisting change, it is an essential force in our lives. Women, in particular, embody this energy, as their bodies are designed to adapt and accommodate the complexities of childbirth. The hormonal fluctuations they experience throughout their lives reflect the nature of Chaos, influencing their moods and states of consciousness.
The Masculine
In contrast, the Masculine represents Order, stability, and structure. It is the force that provides stability to Chaos. Men, built for stability, play a crucial role in containing the potential of women and creating an environment conducive to childbirth and child-rearing. This containment is not achieved through force or aggression, but through benevolence, reliability, logic, and discipline. Men and women must support and complement each other in fulfilling their biological capacities.
Understanding these fundamental concepts of femininity and masculinity is crucial, yet striking a balance between Chaos and Order remains a challenge for humanity.
When it comes to addressing gender-based issues, we have three options:
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- Extreme Traditionalism: Adhering rigidly to the extreme end of one’s assigned sex category.
- Extreme Progressivism: Rejecting the concept of traditional gender roles entirely and identifying as nonbinary.
- Moderate Approach: Embracing the limitations and gifts of one’s assigned gender and respecting the natural roles defined by biology.
Traditional Gender Roles and the Need for Balance
Traditional gender roles provide structure and stability to society, ensuring smooth functioning through clearly defined expectations for each sex. However, strict adherence to these roles can limit freedom, equality, and self-expression. It is essential to strike a balance between Chaos and Order, allowing room for both to coexist harmoniously.
Unfortunately, an imbalance can lead to toxic expressions of masculinity and femininity. The Toxic Patriarchal Male, driven by an extreme sense of masculine purpose, may resort to domination, subjugation, and violence. On the other hand, an overemphasis on femininity can result in Toxic Feminine Forces, characterized by emotional dysregulation, oversensitivity, and a lack of order and structure.
Embracing Healthy Behavior and Finding Harmony
To live in harmony within our sexed bodies and the gendered norms of our culture, both men and women must:
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- Accept the reality of their bodies and structures.
- Embrace their masculine or feminine traits and tendencies.
- Act with respect for themselves and others.
- Integrate elements of Chaos and Order, regulating emotions for women and physicality for men.
- Cultivate a balance of masculine and feminine relationships.
- Foster a healthy relationship with their same and opposite-sexed parents.
- Find pride and joy in their sexed gifts, such as the potential for motherhood and fatherhood.
- Stand up against toxic figures of both sexes.
- Respect sexual boundaries, urges, fears, traumas, and fantasies.
- Celebrate both masculine and feminine qualities, stories, traits, styles, and achievements.
- Recognize and respect the existence of androgynous individuals.
My Personal Journey
On my own journey, I have learned to accept the reality of my body and embrace my feminine traits. I realized that conforming to gender norms or stereotypes does not define my womanhood. The post-modernist notion that I could be anything I wanted, disregarding biological sex and gender roles, led me astray. I have come to appreciate the wisdom of traditional roles and the importance of finding balance between Chaos and Order.
Ultimately, we must strive to find equilibrium in our lives, embracing both the feminine and masculine aspects of our existence. Just as the Yin/Yang symbol represents the interplay of light and dark, we must recognize the complexity of gender and allow our cultural norms to reflect this understanding.
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I am grateful to Dr. Jordan B. Peterson for imparting these valuable insights, which have shaped my perspective as a de-transitioned woman and an observer of the evolving discourse on sex and gender roles in our post-modern society.
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Laura Becker is an American writer, artist, and speaker known for her international de-trans advocacy and activism. She is featured in the documentary “No Way Back: The Reality Of Gender-Affirming Care.” Becker shares her experiences as a post-woke independent while creating under her philosophical brand ‘Funk God.’ You can connect with her here.
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